Need divorce info for mother

[mrgb79]

My mother is in need of divorce information. I have no idea where to start (I'm only 22) and she can't really do any of it herself because my father is practically stalking her every move. They've been separated for about four years now.

Long story short: One day my father came home and told my mother he didn't love her anymore and he was leaving, etc. Over the first year of being separated, my mother tried working on the relationship but my father was unwilling to do so since he had been seeing other women previous to the separation (which is not the first time - he was also caught cheating on my mother when she was pregnant with me).

Three years later now, my mom has become strong and has moved on, but all of a sudden my father now wants to get back together (figure this because the last woman he was with left him, and the one previous to her as well). So, it has come to the point where he is at my mothers house every day and night (sometimes he spends the night on the couch). He checks her caller ID logs, tries to access her computer, copied all the pictures off her camera, has gone through all her stuff and is trying to turn her own family against her by telling them demeaning things. So he's still controlling her, but she's not taking the mental abuse anymore.

To put it simply, my father is an a--hole (excuse the language, I know he's my father, but I am as frustrated as my mother). They were married for 25 years and he was in complete control. He wouldn't let her work, wouldn't let her have her own friends (unless they had money), very possessive, angry and violent/destructive. He never physically abused her, but once did try strangling my sister with a phone cord, who was maybe 11 or 12 at the time (she is not his child biologically, born to a different relationship) and went after my brother once. Never me though.

What he is doing now is stalking and I would like it to end as peaceful as possible, but I'm at the point where I fear I am going to snap on him and I don't know what I'll do. I just want him to leave my mother alone.

Could anyone point me in the right direction please? Any reputable fast online divorce services? She lives in Ontario. She would like to do it without a lawyer, but is ready to hire one if necessary. There's nothing to split since she is in her own apartment, and no custody rights. There will be need of short term spousal support - since he never allowed her to work, she hasn't been successful finding a job, having no experience. At the moment he is paying the rent, but she fears that he will stop when he is served the divorce papers. So until she finds work or the court orders him to pay, she'll need it.

[splendid]

I think your going to need a lawyer weather she wants one or not. I don't have any advise as i'm only around your age and have never been married but this sounds like a very sticky situation to me. It should be fairly easy for her to divorce him since he cheated on her several times and they have been separated for 4 years.

[robert hodge]

Many professionals will talk with no obligation and give useful information.

Good luck!

[nouveauscam]

From dealing with this kind of thing i went to a legal aid and got assistant through them, find out if there is anything like that offered there.